1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three. Larger groups of girls are supertough to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you. And when he does, step away from your friends and let him have some one on one time to get to know you.
2. Smile genuinely. So obvious, right? But I can't stress it enough -- and I can't believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem more cool. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when they are nervous, when they are trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don't do it at all, you look unapproachable.
3.Work the eye contact. To reel him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them -- it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won't be able to tell the difference.
4: Don't immediately ask him what he does. Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of guys hated being asked what their job is. It's that fear-of-being-used thing again.
5: When you're out on the town, you're supposed to be having fun, and any complaint ("It's hot in here!"), pessimism will pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.
6: Make small talk and approach at least one person you find attractive every day. If the idea of small talk gets you tongue-tied, relax. Start simply and slowly. Remember, this doesn't have to be rocket science. You don't have to think of the wittiest conversation-starter ever. The goal is to just get the ball rolling. Potential conversation-starters can be as simple as:
Hi. (Seriously, that counts!)
They may not always be interested, they may not always be available, but by getting into the practice of noticing and acknowledging them, you're more likely to spot the ones who are interested and available when they present themselves to you.
7. Do some research for a fun singles' activity, i.e. online dating, speed dating, a networking mixer, or Sierra Club hike and go for it. Find a cause near and dear to your heart and volunteer on a Saturday or Sunday. You never know who you'll meet!
8. Research some guy topics. Football, videogames, etc. Hey, it might turn out that you like them.- plus it will give you something to talk about and bring commonalities.
9. Learn how to cook so that way when he suggests a particular date, you can return the favor by making him a nice meal, or by cooking together creating a romantic dinner date.
10. Dont immediately get sexual with a man, make him feel comfortable first. Wait to show sexual interest after he has spoken for a while.
When women immediately show sexual interest they think a few things
1. Is this woman a prostitue/slut?
2. Am i being tooled? (tooling is when women fake sexual interest to gain attention. I.e. dancing with a guy she thinks is gay, or that 70 year old man.)
We like to feel that you like us for us, not just that were any man that just happens to be convienient.
A man will sometimes put up with a womans blantant sexual moves in the first seconds of the interaction, but its hard to take them seriously.
Not because we dont want to, but because we think that she must do that to all the guys and were not special.
Men like to feel that a woman is being selective by choosing us. Easy for us, and hard for others.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Sunday, November 9, 2008
4 easy ways to make your man always come straight home from work.
1. When he gets home from work, greet him with love.
-the last thing we want to do when coming home from our crappy job is to hear about how crappy your job was.- At least let us settle down a bit and eat or rest.
2. Suprise him with sex when he arrives home. (wear that special nighty that we bought you, which we all know was for us anyways.)- Or at least a blow job... i mean thats not much to ask is it?
3. Have a good meal prepared for him. (it just has to be something he likes- it can be KFC for all we care)
4. Attempt to gain interest in the things that he likes (sports, etc) it can build commonalities and make for a better relationship overall.
Relationships are about reciprocity, and if you start doing these things we will notice and we will be happier and so will you.
-the last thing we want to do when coming home from our crappy job is to hear about how crappy your job was.- At least let us settle down a bit and eat or rest.
2. Suprise him with sex when he arrives home. (wear that special nighty that we bought you, which we all know was for us anyways.)- Or at least a blow job... i mean thats not much to ask is it?
3. Have a good meal prepared for him. (it just has to be something he likes- it can be KFC for all we care)
4. Attempt to gain interest in the things that he likes (sports, etc) it can build commonalities and make for a better relationship overall.
Relationships are about reciprocity, and if you start doing these things we will notice and we will be happier and so will you.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Women and personal hygene
Seriously women, please take a tic tak.
I can remember on more than one occasion where women just fail to remember a couple of things.
1. Deoderant.
2. Breath mints.
Just because your super attractive and men love you, doenst mean that you skip out on those.
For example:
I was approached by this really attractive blonde woman. Most men would die of dehydration over the amount of drool they lost.
She approaches me and i think "wow. shes pretty good."
And she opens her mouth, and satan himself punched me in the face. So i bolted.
I actually found myself turned off.
It was odd.
Her georgous looks were overshadowed by halatosis.
I was actually shocked that i even cared.
I had this bet with a friend of mine that we were going to try and set up one of my girl friends and have her go out on the town.
But she would not take a shower, smell really really bad, and dress horribly, but still wear awesome makeup.
It was a brief social experiment that we were going to do. * i figured that men would still approach her and not care about the smell*
I was soo wrong, and of course she probably never would have agreed to it.
But before i could even ask this hit me.
It actually turns out that we men do care about that stuff.
Which weirded me out more than anything.
Logistically i thought for sure the looks would be more powerful.
Nope i was wrong.
The deoderant thing is a different story.
I mean, how do you tell a woman that she smells like wet garbage?
Its a paradox indeed.
Whats terrible is that most women have friends that will let them walk around all day and possibly for several days without saying a word.
Then a stranger has to tell them and they get pissed at them.
Then later on they feel relieved, but its too late to thank them, the stranger is gone.
Men understand why sometimes you dont shave your legs every day, (especially when you think no one will see them later, i.e. the bedroom) but how hard is it to take a tic tak?
I mean, seriously.
I can remember on more than one occasion where women just fail to remember a couple of things.
1. Deoderant.
2. Breath mints.
Just because your super attractive and men love you, doenst mean that you skip out on those.
For example:
I was approached by this really attractive blonde woman. Most men would die of dehydration over the amount of drool they lost.
She approaches me and i think "wow. shes pretty good."
And she opens her mouth, and satan himself punched me in the face. So i bolted.
I actually found myself turned off.
It was odd.
Her georgous looks were overshadowed by halatosis.
I was actually shocked that i even cared.
I had this bet with a friend of mine that we were going to try and set up one of my girl friends and have her go out on the town.
But she would not take a shower, smell really really bad, and dress horribly, but still wear awesome makeup.
It was a brief social experiment that we were going to do. * i figured that men would still approach her and not care about the smell*
I was soo wrong, and of course she probably never would have agreed to it.
But before i could even ask this hit me.
It actually turns out that we men do care about that stuff.
Which weirded me out more than anything.
Logistically i thought for sure the looks would be more powerful.
Nope i was wrong.
The deoderant thing is a different story.
I mean, how do you tell a woman that she smells like wet garbage?
Its a paradox indeed.
Whats terrible is that most women have friends that will let them walk around all day and possibly for several days without saying a word.
Then a stranger has to tell them and they get pissed at them.
Then later on they feel relieved, but its too late to thank them, the stranger is gone.
Men understand why sometimes you dont shave your legs every day, (especially when you think no one will see them later, i.e. the bedroom) but how hard is it to take a tic tak?
I mean, seriously.
Men and one night stands
Ok for those of you that have a hard time about men and sex, heres the real answer.
Men dont only want sex. In fact its actually not the most important thing to us.
The media depicts men as heartless sex starved animals that only want to take what we want from women and dump them off at the side of the road.
While this may be true for some men, but even for most of them they do it because the woman at the time drove them to it, or some other woman in the past did.
The great thing about men that most women dont realize is that most of the things that we do is because of women.
They dont realize how awesome that truely is.
Of course the media depicts this as the reason they do it is not because of women, its because of sex.
While there is a direct correlation, its not the reason.
Men equate physical touch to feelings of intamacy, and feelings of affection. When women respond in this same way, men understand on a very deep biological level that the woman must like them.
There is the old saying treat people as you would want to be treated.
This is what men do.
So when you see a man and he approaches you by saying something that most women find appauling, dont get pissed.
Take this for example:
"Hey baby lets have sex!"
Pretty bad, YES?
Its not really, not from the deep understanding of what men truely are.
You see, men are very direct, and they really want to be.
They dont like beating around the bush.
Sure some are only after sex, and even most of those few dont really understand why they feel that sex is the answer.
It took me a while to realize this.
Mindless sexual gratification, no matter how great, just didnt compare to the deep feeling of intamacy that you can share with a member of the opposite sex.
Plus i immediately recognized the same kinds of feelings when it would be a one night stand or sex with someone i didnt know. The difference, i realized is this: one is a small spark, the other an atom bomb.
Many people try and fill a metaphorical hole in themselves.
They do it with sex, with drugs, with religion, etc.
Men have this same hole, the same desire to pair bond.
However its distinctly different than a womans.
Men are attracted to Replication and everything that goes with it.
"Health indicators" "Youth charachteristics" and Child rearing indicators.
Anything genetically benifical towards having offspring, men are attracted to.
Women are actually attracted to Survival
Things like "having other options- i.e. other women in the mans life"
"Having muscles" (providing protection)
Confidence (signs of leadership)
"Populatiry" (safety in numbers)
"Height" (feelings of dominance/power)
So when a man comes up to you and says "lets have sex" hes just trying to cutt through all the fluff and get what he wants.
Men have been taught all our lives to be productive and efficiant.
We want to produce offspring, and we want to be efficiant (i.e. fast)
One of the problems of course is that women have to be selective in their pair bonding.
Which is why they test men.
However, let me say this:
When you test someone (regarless of who) they usually fail.
Im not advocating getting rid of tests, what im saying is that your tests need to be BETTER
You cant expect most men to not make mistakes every once in a while.
Especially when men try new methods of social interactions all the time.
If your really attracted to someone, and they say something retarded be a bit more open minded.
Sure your attraction is gone, but sometimes it comes back, just give most guys room for error.
Imagine if men did this:
"if she says the word sweetie one time, im leaving."
Dont be caught up in mens desire to have one night stands either.
Most men actually prefer long term pair bonds, because it means easier access to sex.
Which is why men like booty calls also.
However, booty calls are something men settle for if they cannot emotionally connect with someone.
Most men dont even understand this themselves. Not to mention most men wont admit it.
Some men try and convince themselves that its somehow "manly" to hit it and quit it.
When we all know that its bull.
Plus most of this has to do with the media programming.
Just realize that while mens primary contributors for attraction is sex and looks; mens primary reason for pair bonding isnt.
Men dont only want sex. In fact its actually not the most important thing to us.
The media depicts men as heartless sex starved animals that only want to take what we want from women and dump them off at the side of the road.
While this may be true for some men, but even for most of them they do it because the woman at the time drove them to it, or some other woman in the past did.
The great thing about men that most women dont realize is that most of the things that we do is because of women.
They dont realize how awesome that truely is.
Of course the media depicts this as the reason they do it is not because of women, its because of sex.
While there is a direct correlation, its not the reason.
Men equate physical touch to feelings of intamacy, and feelings of affection. When women respond in this same way, men understand on a very deep biological level that the woman must like them.
There is the old saying treat people as you would want to be treated.
This is what men do.
So when you see a man and he approaches you by saying something that most women find appauling, dont get pissed.
Take this for example:
"Hey baby lets have sex!"
Pretty bad, YES?
Its not really, not from the deep understanding of what men truely are.
You see, men are very direct, and they really want to be.
They dont like beating around the bush.
Sure some are only after sex, and even most of those few dont really understand why they feel that sex is the answer.
It took me a while to realize this.
Mindless sexual gratification, no matter how great, just didnt compare to the deep feeling of intamacy that you can share with a member of the opposite sex.
Plus i immediately recognized the same kinds of feelings when it would be a one night stand or sex with someone i didnt know. The difference, i realized is this: one is a small spark, the other an atom bomb.
Many people try and fill a metaphorical hole in themselves.
They do it with sex, with drugs, with religion, etc.
Men have this same hole, the same desire to pair bond.
However its distinctly different than a womans.
Men are attracted to Replication and everything that goes with it.
"Health indicators" "Youth charachteristics" and Child rearing indicators.
Anything genetically benifical towards having offspring, men are attracted to.
Women are actually attracted to Survival
Things like "having other options- i.e. other women in the mans life"
"Having muscles" (providing protection)
Confidence (signs of leadership)
"Populatiry" (safety in numbers)
"Height" (feelings of dominance/power)
So when a man comes up to you and says "lets have sex" hes just trying to cutt through all the fluff and get what he wants.
Men have been taught all our lives to be productive and efficiant.
We want to produce offspring, and we want to be efficiant (i.e. fast)
One of the problems of course is that women have to be selective in their pair bonding.
Which is why they test men.
However, let me say this:
When you test someone (regarless of who) they usually fail.
Im not advocating getting rid of tests, what im saying is that your tests need to be BETTER
You cant expect most men to not make mistakes every once in a while.
Especially when men try new methods of social interactions all the time.
If your really attracted to someone, and they say something retarded be a bit more open minded.
Sure your attraction is gone, but sometimes it comes back, just give most guys room for error.
Imagine if men did this:
"if she says the word sweetie one time, im leaving."
Dont be caught up in mens desire to have one night stands either.
Most men actually prefer long term pair bonds, because it means easier access to sex.
Which is why men like booty calls also.
However, booty calls are something men settle for if they cannot emotionally connect with someone.
Most men dont even understand this themselves. Not to mention most men wont admit it.
Some men try and convince themselves that its somehow "manly" to hit it and quit it.
When we all know that its bull.
Plus most of this has to do with the media programming.
Just realize that while mens primary contributors for attraction is sex and looks; mens primary reason for pair bonding isnt.
Friday, October 10, 2008
10 ways to a happy relationship
1. When a guy approaches you, don't fall back on the one strike and hes out rule.
(how many times do guys notice that if they say or do one thing wrong, its the back turn.)
I know tons of cases where the guy came back later and they ended up happily married.
2. Let the man be in control and in charge. (its either that or have him be an emasculated wuss boy who you are not attracted to)
3. Learn how to give yourself an orgasm so that you can tell him how to give you one.
If you don't know figure it out.
4. Learn how to be better at sex. (most women feel sexual satisfaction is the mans job- remember there are two people involved here.)
5. Stop feeling entitled for things. (drinks, romance, etc) if you feel entitled to something, you expect it and then it loses its appeal. Not to mention it pisses us off and we will dump you or never even ask you out.
6. Approach men who you are interested in. (Stop feeling entitled for romance)
7. Pay for the date sometimes. If its a first date, dutch is always ideal. Why should men spend money on a stranger, what are we, charity? Truly if its the alpha male of your dreams, hes probably been on lots of dates.
Look at it this way, as a guy i go on lots of dates. Most dates are logistically going to be a waste of money and time.
The ideal date is one that eventually ends in at least a long term relationship of some kind.
Most of them are, by sheer odds, going to end badly.
So the man has to waste money on a woman who he doesn't know and then eventually hated?
There are 2 reasons men pay for dates.
1. They feel they have to and regret it later.
2. They are emasculated wussies and believe in female entitlement and explain it away by saying things like "its making them feel like a woman."
Well if paying for you makes you feel like a woman, than a woman has a price tag.
A woman with a price tag is a prostitute.
Or they say "its about gender roles."
-Again, how is the man in control when hes the one paying?
Putting a woman on a pedestal is not a role that men should want to be in.
When men put a woman on a pedestal, women have no choice but to look down on them.
(if going dutch repulses you, men will be repulsed by you.)
8. If you initiate sex more to your partner than he does, he will love you forever.
If a woman at least appears to have a stronger sex drive than a man, he is likely to be happy.
-there is a reason why men try to find nymphos.
9. Realize that men use sex and physical touch to show affection, and reciprocate in turn.
- Not every time a man touches you means that we want to fornicate.
10. Be open to communication. (if you don't like something tell us) Realize that sometimes we go out with a girl that likes to be touched or treated a certain way. If you don't like those things, its easier for you to tell us than us having to assume.
(how many times do guys notice that if they say or do one thing wrong, its the back turn.)
I know tons of cases where the guy came back later and they ended up happily married.
2. Let the man be in control and in charge. (its either that or have him be an emasculated wuss boy who you are not attracted to)
3. Learn how to give yourself an orgasm so that you can tell him how to give you one.
If you don't know figure it out.
4. Learn how to be better at sex. (most women feel sexual satisfaction is the mans job- remember there are two people involved here.)
5. Stop feeling entitled for things. (drinks, romance, etc) if you feel entitled to something, you expect it and then it loses its appeal. Not to mention it pisses us off and we will dump you or never even ask you out.
6. Approach men who you are interested in. (Stop feeling entitled for romance)
7. Pay for the date sometimes. If its a first date, dutch is always ideal. Why should men spend money on a stranger, what are we, charity? Truly if its the alpha male of your dreams, hes probably been on lots of dates.
Look at it this way, as a guy i go on lots of dates. Most dates are logistically going to be a waste of money and time.
The ideal date is one that eventually ends in at least a long term relationship of some kind.
Most of them are, by sheer odds, going to end badly.
So the man has to waste money on a woman who he doesn't know and then eventually hated?
There are 2 reasons men pay for dates.
1. They feel they have to and regret it later.
2. They are emasculated wussies and believe in female entitlement and explain it away by saying things like "its making them feel like a woman."
Well if paying for you makes you feel like a woman, than a woman has a price tag.
A woman with a price tag is a prostitute.
Or they say "its about gender roles."
-Again, how is the man in control when hes the one paying?
Putting a woman on a pedestal is not a role that men should want to be in.
When men put a woman on a pedestal, women have no choice but to look down on them.
(if going dutch repulses you, men will be repulsed by you.)
8. If you initiate sex more to your partner than he does, he will love you forever.
If a woman at least appears to have a stronger sex drive than a man, he is likely to be happy.
-there is a reason why men try to find nymphos.
9. Realize that men use sex and physical touch to show affection, and reciprocate in turn.
- Not every time a man touches you means that we want to fornicate.
10. Be open to communication. (if you don't like something tell us) Realize that sometimes we go out with a girl that likes to be touched or treated a certain way. If you don't like those things, its easier for you to tell us than us having to assume.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Women hate sex.
Honestly women must hate sex.
There are a couple of reasons for this.
If someone finds out that they just ate a turd sandwich, what do they say?
"I didn't know there was a turd in it."
Compare that to: "I didn't know that him asking me up to his apartment meant he wanted sex."
Or:
Slipping on a banana peel, falling and breaking your arm.
"I don't know, it just kinda happened." Might likely be your answer.
Compare that to:
"I don't know, it just happened." - Which women love to use.
Look at it this way, if someone were to offer you an ice cream cone would you refuse it and spit in their face?
No.
Obviously that would be rude.
Unless you really really liked ice cream and then you would probably take it.
Most people who are prostitutes are of the female gender.
Why is this?
When asked what people thought of their jobs, what do you think their responses were?
They hated it.
Most of the time when people exchange a service for money, they don't typically enjoy the service, otherwise you wouldn't have to pay them for it.
They would already be doing it for free.
Why do you think men have to be the aggressors when it comes to sex?
Look at it this way, If your friend really wanted to go shopping and you hated shopping would you go?
Maybe, because hes your friend, but there is no way you would bring it up yourself.
Suppose you had something better to do?
Would you bring up excuses if you didn't want to tell him that you didn't like shopping?
You bet you would.
Responses like "i don't feel good. I have a headache." might be some of your responses.
If you could get a hundred thousand dollars for someone punching you in the face would you take it?
Most people probably would.
That doesn't mean they liked getting punched in the face.
Just because women sleep with men doesn't mean they like sex.
Men and women both understand that some women do it to get what they want.
Look at the clothes women wear and the media.
Sex sells.
It gets people to buy their product.
It gets men to do what they want.
If women were dressed badly with no makeup at a club, chances are no drinks are going to be bought for them.
Would women get breast implants, spend hours getting ready in front of a mirror, spend thousands of dollars on makeup if they felt that they didn't have to?
Of course not.
Then you have the women who sleep with men and act as if they are doing them a favor for sleeping with them.
Most men would rather cut off their genitals than feel manipulated by sex.
Why would a man want to sleep with a woman he loves with full knowledge that she hates it?
Would cutting off our genitals make women feel more at ease?
PLEASE NOTE.
I don't think women hate sex, but sometimes they sure act as if they do.
There are a couple of reasons for this.
If someone finds out that they just ate a turd sandwich, what do they say?
"I didn't know there was a turd in it."
Compare that to: "I didn't know that him asking me up to his apartment meant he wanted sex."
Or:
Slipping on a banana peel, falling and breaking your arm.
"I don't know, it just kinda happened." Might likely be your answer.
Compare that to:
"I don't know, it just happened." - Which women love to use.
Look at it this way, if someone were to offer you an ice cream cone would you refuse it and spit in their face?
No.
Obviously that would be rude.
Unless you really really liked ice cream and then you would probably take it.
Most people who are prostitutes are of the female gender.
Why is this?
When asked what people thought of their jobs, what do you think their responses were?
They hated it.
Most of the time when people exchange a service for money, they don't typically enjoy the service, otherwise you wouldn't have to pay them for it.
They would already be doing it for free.
Why do you think men have to be the aggressors when it comes to sex?
Look at it this way, If your friend really wanted to go shopping and you hated shopping would you go?
Maybe, because hes your friend, but there is no way you would bring it up yourself.
Suppose you had something better to do?
Would you bring up excuses if you didn't want to tell him that you didn't like shopping?
You bet you would.
Responses like "i don't feel good. I have a headache." might be some of your responses.
If you could get a hundred thousand dollars for someone punching you in the face would you take it?
Most people probably would.
That doesn't mean they liked getting punched in the face.
Just because women sleep with men doesn't mean they like sex.
Men and women both understand that some women do it to get what they want.
Look at the clothes women wear and the media.
Sex sells.
It gets people to buy their product.
It gets men to do what they want.
If women were dressed badly with no makeup at a club, chances are no drinks are going to be bought for them.
Would women get breast implants, spend hours getting ready in front of a mirror, spend thousands of dollars on makeup if they felt that they didn't have to?
Of course not.
Then you have the women who sleep with men and act as if they are doing them a favor for sleeping with them.
Most men would rather cut off their genitals than feel manipulated by sex.
Why would a man want to sleep with a woman he loves with full knowledge that she hates it?
Would cutting off our genitals make women feel more at ease?
PLEASE NOTE.
I don't think women hate sex, but sometimes they sure act as if they do.
Women and clubs.
This is written by a man to help women understand men.
OK here are the issues i have with women and clubs.
Its the only place that you will see women get all dressed up to perfection, other than their wedding day. There are reasons for this, they do this so that they can compete with other women to get to the top 1% of the men in the club. This top 1% of men typically are what is considered to be the "alpha male" or the "tribal leader."
I asked my sister once why she went to clubs, and she said this to me: "to go out and have fun."
Here's the real difference between a man who goes to a club and a woman, a man will admit that he goes there to score, or at least meet someone. Women on the other hand always use "plausible deny ability" and will use it to a fault.
The reasoning for this is mostly based off nurture.
Lets look at Cosmo for example.
In Cosmo they tell women how to "flip your hair to meet mister right." To "how to dress flirty."
And 50 different ways to let him know your interested.
Whats alarming is you never read "how to talk to a guy and seduce him." or "how to approach seductively and win your man." Or even "how to beat out the slut that stole your man."
Honestly, its rather alarming that some women say that they don't want to be approached by a guy in a club. Truthfully that's a lie. They just don't want to approached by anyone that doesn't fit that top 1% of guys in the club.
This is coming from a guy who is that top 1%.
I see friends of mine get shot down, time after time.
I laughed once when a woman yelled at a guy cursing at him "f***" off! she yelled, waving her hand in his face.
Of course she came to me in her own defence "I really wasn't trying to diss him." she explained.
I thought to myself. (Your actions speak so loudly i cant hear a word you say)
Ok suppose you make it to where your that top 1% or it gets late in the night and women have decided to settle on you because your their 2nd or 3rd draft pick.
Then what happens?
Honestly most women who go to clubs tell themselves and their friends that they are not going there to meet a guy. *remember plausible deny ability*
Why is it that women want equality in the workplace and socialism in dating?
If women are supposedly mens equals, than why is it that men have to do the approaching all the time?
To make matters worse, in a club when women approach men, we have to wonder: is she tooling me like she just tooled that other guy?
Most women travel in packs, so it makes it difficult for men to approach, because they are evolutionary hardwired to fear the approach. Plus if they approach they have complete and utter understanding that the probability of them being cock blocked by one of the woman's friends is pretty likely.
Ill give you an example.
I had this underwear model guy who was a friend of mine, brad pitt wouldn't even measure up to a pimple on this guys butt.
Suffice it to say, he approached this group and this woman was totally into him. However, what happened though is one of her friends kept butting in.
"Are you going to be ok?"
"Do you need a ride home?"
"Your not going home with him are you?"
Do you really think that she really cared about her friends safety?
NO.
Women know that its very unlikely that a guy is going to stab them if they leave with them.
She was concerned about herself and the well being of the group.
You see if she goes home with my friend and someone else finds out about it, she could be viewed as a slut. Probably the fact that he was attractive wouldn't even factor in.
If she allows her friend to go home with him, she could intern be guilty by association.
She could look like a slut too.
If three girls roll into a club and some people find out that one of them just got done blowing a guy in the bathroom, then they all get labeled as sluts.
Which is why sometimes you will see fat or ugly girls with attractive women.
It does a couple of things.
1. It keeps the women in check and allows for cock blocking.
2. It makes the attractive ones better by comparison.
So my underwear model friend of mine ended up going home with her and sleeping with her.
She still barely went with him, because she kept having to consistently backwards rationalize it to her friend.
Women have consistently admitted to me that their views are incredibly dependant on what their friends think of them.
Which brings me back to the other issue.
Women understand that if they continue to shoot other guys down who approach them, it increases their value.
Most women at clubs are about getting validation from men while simultaneously not accepting their approaches.
Women also harm their chances with getting with the top 1% of men when they tool guys at clubs.
Picture this: A guy who is 60 years old at a club who is dressed funny and people are laughing at him.
Then you as an attractive woman goes up and starts griding on him.
When women do this at clubs it decreases your value in the eyes of the alpha man.
Plus it makes you look like a bad person.
Remember your making fun of someone at their expense and that's not cool.
Plus what about buying drinks for a woman?
Cant do that.
Otherwise your supplicating right?
That's not the only problem.
Most women who have had drinks bought for them from guys, it was because the guy didn't have anything else.
The drink was all he had to get her attracted.
Women understand this, and your just the next guy.
And some think that your just doing this to get them drunk so that you can sleep with them.
So, even if we approach, get your friends to like us and even you like us, we still have to deal with a mess of other issues.
1. Interuppts (men and other women butting in)- *attempting to cockblock*
2. The one strike and your out mentality (in this case the woman is already attracted- but you could still *mess it up*)-
3. Your last minute resistance. (everything all hot and heavy and then for some reason beyond even a womans understanding you want him to stop)
You combine all of this with all the negativity against men in the media and you have men not approaching at all.
Men know that most women go there just to get oggled by men and to compete with other women.
Plus some of them go hoping that they will meet a celebrity or someone famous.
They also have this idea that all men want is sex, and thats all.
Thats pretty narrow minded.
So i guess all men are heartless jerks that dont care about relationships at all.
Its as if we dont like being loved at all.
On top of all of that they make the association that says, if hes at a club that thats all hes there for, and thats all he ever cares about.
In other words, if your at a club than your only looking for sex.
So, can the same thing be said for women?
No women at all.. EVER?
I suppose not.
The idea that no decent men, or decent women goto clubs is a lie.
I asked my sister who is married now if she would have gotten married to her husband if she met him in the club.
She quickly responded "hell no."
Theres the problem.
OK here are the issues i have with women and clubs.
Its the only place that you will see women get all dressed up to perfection, other than their wedding day. There are reasons for this, they do this so that they can compete with other women to get to the top 1% of the men in the club. This top 1% of men typically are what is considered to be the "alpha male" or the "tribal leader."
I asked my sister once why she went to clubs, and she said this to me: "to go out and have fun."
Here's the real difference between a man who goes to a club and a woman, a man will admit that he goes there to score, or at least meet someone. Women on the other hand always use "plausible deny ability" and will use it to a fault.
The reasoning for this is mostly based off nurture.
Lets look at Cosmo for example.
In Cosmo they tell women how to "flip your hair to meet mister right." To "how to dress flirty."
And 50 different ways to let him know your interested.
Whats alarming is you never read "how to talk to a guy and seduce him." or "how to approach seductively and win your man." Or even "how to beat out the slut that stole your man."
Honestly, its rather alarming that some women say that they don't want to be approached by a guy in a club. Truthfully that's a lie. They just don't want to approached by anyone that doesn't fit that top 1% of guys in the club.
This is coming from a guy who is that top 1%.
I see friends of mine get shot down, time after time.
I laughed once when a woman yelled at a guy cursing at him "f***" off! she yelled, waving her hand in his face.
Of course she came to me in her own defence "I really wasn't trying to diss him." she explained.
I thought to myself. (Your actions speak so loudly i cant hear a word you say)
Ok suppose you make it to where your that top 1% or it gets late in the night and women have decided to settle on you because your their 2nd or 3rd draft pick.
Then what happens?
Honestly most women who go to clubs tell themselves and their friends that they are not going there to meet a guy. *remember plausible deny ability*
Why is it that women want equality in the workplace and socialism in dating?
If women are supposedly mens equals, than why is it that men have to do the approaching all the time?
To make matters worse, in a club when women approach men, we have to wonder: is she tooling me like she just tooled that other guy?
Most women travel in packs, so it makes it difficult for men to approach, because they are evolutionary hardwired to fear the approach. Plus if they approach they have complete and utter understanding that the probability of them being cock blocked by one of the woman's friends is pretty likely.
Ill give you an example.
I had this underwear model guy who was a friend of mine, brad pitt wouldn't even measure up to a pimple on this guys butt.
Suffice it to say, he approached this group and this woman was totally into him. However, what happened though is one of her friends kept butting in.
"Are you going to be ok?"
"Do you need a ride home?"
"Your not going home with him are you?"
Do you really think that she really cared about her friends safety?
NO.
Women know that its very unlikely that a guy is going to stab them if they leave with them.
She was concerned about herself and the well being of the group.
You see if she goes home with my friend and someone else finds out about it, she could be viewed as a slut. Probably the fact that he was attractive wouldn't even factor in.
If she allows her friend to go home with him, she could intern be guilty by association.
She could look like a slut too.
If three girls roll into a club and some people find out that one of them just got done blowing a guy in the bathroom, then they all get labeled as sluts.
Which is why sometimes you will see fat or ugly girls with attractive women.
It does a couple of things.
1. It keeps the women in check and allows for cock blocking.
2. It makes the attractive ones better by comparison.
So my underwear model friend of mine ended up going home with her and sleeping with her.
She still barely went with him, because she kept having to consistently backwards rationalize it to her friend.
Women have consistently admitted to me that their views are incredibly dependant on what their friends think of them.
Which brings me back to the other issue.
Women understand that if they continue to shoot other guys down who approach them, it increases their value.
Most women at clubs are about getting validation from men while simultaneously not accepting their approaches.
Women also harm their chances with getting with the top 1% of men when they tool guys at clubs.
Picture this: A guy who is 60 years old at a club who is dressed funny and people are laughing at him.
Then you as an attractive woman goes up and starts griding on him.
When women do this at clubs it decreases your value in the eyes of the alpha man.
Plus it makes you look like a bad person.
Remember your making fun of someone at their expense and that's not cool.
Plus what about buying drinks for a woman?
Cant do that.
Otherwise your supplicating right?
That's not the only problem.
Most women who have had drinks bought for them from guys, it was because the guy didn't have anything else.
The drink was all he had to get her attracted.
Women understand this, and your just the next guy.
And some think that your just doing this to get them drunk so that you can sleep with them.
So, even if we approach, get your friends to like us and even you like us, we still have to deal with a mess of other issues.
1. Interuppts (men and other women butting in)- *attempting to cockblock*
2. The one strike and your out mentality (in this case the woman is already attracted- but you could still *mess it up*)-
3. Your last minute resistance. (everything all hot and heavy and then for some reason beyond even a womans understanding you want him to stop)
You combine all of this with all the negativity against men in the media and you have men not approaching at all.
Men know that most women go there just to get oggled by men and to compete with other women.
Plus some of them go hoping that they will meet a celebrity or someone famous.
They also have this idea that all men want is sex, and thats all.
Thats pretty narrow minded.
So i guess all men are heartless jerks that dont care about relationships at all.
Its as if we dont like being loved at all.
On top of all of that they make the association that says, if hes at a club that thats all hes there for, and thats all he ever cares about.
In other words, if your at a club than your only looking for sex.
So, can the same thing be said for women?
No women at all.. EVER?
I suppose not.
The idea that no decent men, or decent women goto clubs is a lie.
I asked my sister who is married now if she would have gotten married to her husband if she met him in the club.
She quickly responded "hell no."
Theres the problem.
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